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Today I thought I would step outside my comfort zone and share with you all a few things I’ve learned since graduating from college. Of course I’ve only been graduated for exactly 21 days, but in that time I’ve moved to a new city, got a new job, and have successfully moved into a studio apartment by myself. I still have a ways to go and a lot more to learn but hey, we all gotta start somewhere right?
TIP 1: Being alone is okay.
One of the biggest things I’ve learned so far is that its okay to feel lonely and sometimes it can actually be good for you. Living alone gives you A LOT of time for self-reflection. The first day I spent in my apartment all day, alone was tough. I didn’t really know what to do with myself. Luckily my friends got me out of the house and talked me through it. While it’s hard to grapple with the feeling of being alone, I’ve realized that it’s a great opportunity to get to know yourself. You can take the time to find a new Netflix show, find a new music artist or podcast you like, or just sit back and take the time to do things you’ve always wanted to do. One of my New Year’s Resolutions was to read a book every month, so anytime I’m alone in the apartment I’ve been making an effort to sit my booty down on the couch and read!
TIP 2: Find your new favorite places!
One of my favorite things so far about being in a new city is finding new places that make me excited to get out of the house. These new places can be as little as finding your new nail salon, gym, or even favorite boutique. I’ve been loving doing this, but my favorite part of exploring has been finding new restaurant/bar spots (let me know if you want to see a Seattle restaurant guide).
TIP 3: Get out of the house.
This tip is pretty self-explanatory and goes hand in hand with finding your new places. Don’t get me wrong, some days it’s good to veg and be lazy but sometimes you just need to get out to spare your sanity. I’ve been doing this by motivating myself to get to the gym, or even just getting out to find myself the perfect vanilla almond milk latte. I grew up in the Southwest where we were 100% landlocked so living near the water is such a luxury to me. One of my favorite things to do is go for a walk by the water at sunset.
TIP 4: Lean on your friends for support.
Despite all of this talk about being learning to be alone, it’s good to lean on your friends. Make an effort to see them because they’re the ones who will keep you sane. Make time for happy hour, wine and cheese nights, game nights, and movie nights. Do it all! Do what makes you guys close. Hold onto them a remind them how much you appreciate them because at the end of a long day they’re the ones who will be there for you and save you from your loneliness.
TIP 5: No connection is a bad connection.
My last tip is to put yourself out there as much as possible. You never know when you might find a new connection or make a new friend. It could be at a bar, at work, or even online! Meeting people will help you cater new interests and could potentially help you along in you endeavors down the road. It’s also just exciting to learn about new people and their own lives!
I hope this was helpful for all you fellow post-grad student’s out there. It might all seem like common sense but sometimes it’s nice to have a little reminder.
Photos: Jacob Pogorek (check out his Instagram here).
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